To protect yourself against scammers and marriage fraud, read my below article and discover how you can avoid it. This is Men’s Ultimate Guide Against Scammers!
No one would like to fall victim of a scam, yet everyday the number of people who have fallen into it is growing at an alarming rate. The Internet has become the most powerful medium that scammers utilize to swindle people. You can search the word scam or fraud in Google and you’ll be surprised of the long list from African inheritance scams to multi-level marketing and Internet dating/marriage scams.
As the number of frauds and scams grow by the number, more and more people are becoming susceptible to it. Amazingly, the methods employed by these scammers have tremendously improved over the past two years, which makes their scams even more appealing to people.
Why scammers and frauds have infested dating/marriage sites?
Psychologically speaking, emotions are the strongest driving force that is capable of blinding people from being reasonable and logical. Do you still remember how you were willing to do anything for someone you love? When you are in love to someone, you become determined to do whatever it takes to be with her/him.
Scammers, realizing what love can do to a person; try to invest on this very weakness. Later on in this article, you will discover how scammers effectively ransack people by taking advantage of their emotions and impulses.
Who are these scammers or frauds?
Scammers or frauds can be virtually anyone. In the case of Internet dating/marriage services, they could be the persons featured on the site or a different person in the guise of being someone else or they could be the webmasters (person/persons who operate the website) themselves.
Below are the three most important things to remember in order to avoid being scammed while searching for a soul mate in the Internet. Once you follow these 3 rules, you are ensured of sufficient protection from frauds and scams.
3 Most Important Rules to Remember in Order to Avoid Scams and Frauds
1. Never get “Money” involved in any of your transactions.
Avoid dating websites that require you to pay or donate money in order to obtain contact details of the person you are interested in. Never pay for registration to any dating websites as well. These payments are a waste of your resource and time for there is no assurance whatsoever given in exchange for your payment.
The bottom line, what ever you do to search for a partner in life on-line, NEVER EVER PAY for any services. Not that there are no credible dating/marriage websites/agencies but this is the best way to avoid scams and frauds. Remember that the usual incentive or motive of these scammers is your MONEY! Without giving them incentives/motives, there is no reason for them to exist.
2. Never give information about yourself.
There have been several cases of people who were scammed simply because they have given full and accurate information about themselves, namely; full name, address, telephone number, bank account and details about families, friends and relatives. These information are the most valuable tools that scammers use to effectively scam you. By not giving them the tools/information they need, you make them incapable of scamming people including yourself.
3. Remain skeptical.
Being skeptical, though may be perceived as offensive by other people, is another powerful armor against scams or frauds.What does it takes to be skeptical? Be logical, be reasonable and use your common sense. The reason why our brains are located higher than our hearts is for us to put logic above our emotions.
For instance, you met a lady from a dating website for whom you found yourself madly in love with. Because of the distance between the two of you, she requested that you subsidize her travel expense so that you can finally see each other in person. What are you going to do? Are you going to jump immediately into giving her what she asked for? Be skeptical!
Prevention is better than cure
When we are sick, we seek the service of a doctor. We incur expenses, which in the first place could have been avoided if we were able to prevent the occurrence of the sickness or if we were able to diagnose it in its early stage. Cancer for instance is best treated when diagnosed at its early stage. Similarly, being scammed is best avoided when detected early on before it even materializes.
Below is a list that could indicate possible cases of scams or frauds and must be handled with caution.
Instances that may indicate possible scams or frauds are originating from two possible sources.
1. The Person Featured in the Dating Site.
a) When the picture used in the profile is too beautiful.
Come on! Be realistic! If she’s beautiful, don’t you think that she doesn’t need too much publicity or exposure to be noticed? In short, she doesn’t need to publish an ad of herself to find a man for her. Usually, scammers will use pictures of beautiful ladies probably obtained from modeling sites to lure the interests of men. Physical beauty is attractive but don’t get deceived with it.
b) Any form of cash extortion.
For the Nth time, don’t buy any form of cash extortion. Whatever her reasons are to request money from you, no matter how sincere or believable it may seem, don’t give in. These scammers are trained to deceive people into believing their scams.
c) Ads targeted to Old men.
This may hurt the oldies but the truth is, most victims of dating/marriage scams in the Internet are the old men. Most scammers target the old men because they are proven to be the most gullible group of men. You are therefore highly advised to avoid advertisement that specifies old men as what they’re looking for.
d) Inconsistent, changing or confusing information.
“I’m sorry I wasn’t able to email you for a long time because my boss fired me from work and so I don’t have access to the Internet.” (Hmm… I thought you weren’t working and that you’re a full time student.)
This confusion and inconsistency might be a result of the scammer dealing with different victims. Somewhere along the road, she got confused. Now, don’t let this confused scammer confuse you!
e) Tech Savvy Asian Women
Most Asian women featured in dating/marriage websites are mostly coming from poor families. Most of them are uneducated, cannot afford to buy a computer and pay for the monthly Internet connection. How could someone who does not have the means (knowledge and resource) post her profile on the net and receive and reply messages to the correspondents?
f) Well-written reply from a non-English speaking country
Women who are from non-English speaking countries are expected to have poor English comprehension and poor grammar. Although there are exceptions to this rule, it would be safer to assume that someone from non-English speaking country should commit errors (grammar, syntax, spelling etc.) in their emails. It’s therefore justified to suspect someone from a non-English speaking country to be a scam or fraud if her replies are well written and well structured.
g) Very Willing and Eager Ladies
What kind of lady do you think will send you tons of her pictures and will immediately tell you that she’s falling for you after a few exchanges of messages? What are her motives? Could it be love or something else? Be careful!
h) Avoids camera chats and telephone calls
Lousy Scammer: “I’m sorry but I don’t have a telephone line and a camera”
You: “You can use a pay phone baby or give me a number and I’ll call you through it. Or you can go to a computer shop. I’m sure they have cameras there.”
Lousy Scammer: “I have a better suggestion baby.”
You: “What is it honey? Tell me!”
Lousy Scammer: “It’s embarrassing.”
You: “It’s okay. What is it?”
Here’s the catch.
Lousy Scammer: “Why don’t you send me some money so I can buy a computer and apply for a telephone line? I’ll chat with you on-line all the time and I’ll never forget to drop you a call. Promise!”
This may sound obvious but it worked in some cases. A man from Italy reported how a woman from Thailand has burgled him. It was too late when he didn’t receive any calls after the money was sent to her.
i) Inquiries made about your net worth.
What has real love got to do with net worth? Well, it matters a lot when she loves your net worth don’t you think?
2. Agencies or Webmasters
For agencies/match makers or websites that require any of the following, you need to be careful in dealing with them.
a) Registration Fee
b) Membership Fee
c) Introduction Fee
d) Arrangement Fee
e) “Mandatory” Donation
Any form of payment required for any of their services should be studied and decided upon carefully.
I hope this article provided you with enough information to be able to detect and avoid scammers. You can also contact us directly if you think you have been a victim of fraud.